Ever come across people who look at life so negatively that you can't help but wonder if they're constantly asking themselves why they should have been born?
There are enough of them around us to make life "not as comfortable" for us, especially if we have to work with them or otherwise interact with them. They are constantly surrounded by a gloomy aura such that anyone who gets near them can't help being affected by this aura. The conflicts within these people manifest within 10 minutes of contact or interaction.
Many times it's the illusion of a lack of attention; when the devil within them say that they're not getting the attention or appreciation they deserve (be it appreciation for their work or purely their existence) so much so that they must let loose a series of negative signs in protest of how this world isn't treating them fairly and squarely.
When they get too much work, they feel like they need to be appreciated for working hard, even though the rest of the people around them work equally hard. When they face a problem (even if the problem is caused partly, perhaps even entirely, by their own doings or omissions), they need the rest of the world to show, unequivocally, that they sympathize with them.
When something goes wrong with whatever it is in their lives, it's always about someone else not measuring up to expectations or something else not doing what it should have done, BUT never about themselves. Traits of selfishness, definitely. But I believe it's a lot more than that.
They fall ill easily, perhaps because they've chosen to be surrounded by bad vibes each day. Or perhaps they're always feeling that they don't feel good. They have friends, but they only want friends to listen when they speak. And when the friends speak up, they must speak in agreement. It's a pity that they are so lonely within themselves.
The pent up frustration and struggles within themselves result in frequent or even prolonged outbursts of rage. Or it may even result in some form of violence, be it violence upon someone else or violence upon themselves, like banging their heads against the wall or thumping their fists on the table. Feed them with alcohol and the problems are compounded a hundred times.
They are the ones who need help most, yet will shun help. They will not read books about self improvement or positive aspects of life. Suggestions or even hints of psychiatrists will surely meet with bouts of flying rage. Sadly, one can only conclude that they don't seem to want to help themselves.
Compare this with people who are always positive about the situations they're in.
Whether it's problems with the work they're doing, whether it's temporary setbacks in their life, or whether it's just a bad day. They always have a positive outlook. A temporary setback or bump is a test of oneself, they believe. A good day will always follow a bad day or series of bad days. There's always hope waiting for them after this bad patch is over. Negativity or anger will compound existing problems rather than solve them. Words of appreciation for what we have done are the most superficial forms of appreciation even if they are meant as they are said; unspoken respect and admiration echoes louder through the times.
Through the years of meeting and dealing with such negative personalities, I have tried to overcome the bad aura with my good ones. But, on days when the bad aura become so overpowering that my good ones risk being consumed, I would beat a hasty retreat.
Its not easy; for the evil within ourselves will always encourage conflicts, for conflicts are what they need to feed on to become more evil. There lies the resolve in ourselves. We can succumb or choose not to.
Human relations are as complex as this universe. I can't even pretend that I'm seeing the light of day yet. Can you?
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